How to Build Confidence and Self-Esteem – The Ugly Truth About Confidence

Hey, what’s up? In this blog post, I want to talk about how to build confidence and self-esteem.

Do you live your life struggling to feel comfortable about yourself? Do you feel like you’re always putting on a “mask”? Do you feel like you have untapped potential sitting inside of you? Do you feel too shy to speak to someone you’re attracted too? Do you feel you’re not worthy and don’t deserve the best for yourself?

These are all problems you need to get a handle of and control. Luckily, improving your confidence and self-esteem will help dramatically with that.

I want to share with you the ugly truth about confidence and how to use it to speed up your personal development. Once you understand this you can make permanent (not temporary) change in your life. It’s the only way to build unshakable confidence that sticks and doesn’t go away.

Let’s start with some facts…

No matter what people tell you, improving your confidence isn’t an overnight thing. Confidence isn’t a binary. You’re not either on or off. It’s something that changes and evolves the more you work on yourself.

Watch the video below to find out how to grow your self-esteem:

How to Build Confidence and Self-Esteem

I want you to picture a hill.

This hill is tall, muddy and wet. And you have one goal – to climb up that hill. Why? Because at the top of this hill is where you’ll unlock true unshakeable confidence.

Sick right?

The weird thing about this hill is you can’t physically climb it. That won’t work. You have to do things a little differently. You see, the only way to climb up this hill is to work on yourself. The more you “feed” yourself with good thoughts and influences, the higher up the muddy hill you’ll go.

So how do you work on yourself?

Here are some things you can do to “climb the muddy hill” in your own life:

– Push yourself out of your comfort zone!

This is a great way to rewire what your brain thinks about certain situations. For example, you might be shy to talk to a girl you find attractive. Your “current reality” is that attractive girls are scary and unapproachable.  Now, let’s say one day you decide to go out of your comfort zone. You tell yourself, “Fuck it, I’m going to do it!”

Afterwards you realize it went a lot better than you thought it would and this weird thing happens inside of you. Your “reality” and mindset on talking to attractive girls got flipped on its head. Your new “reality” is that talking to someone you find attractive is good and won’t kill you. All of this happened because you got out of your comfort zone.

– Constantly tell yourself positive affirmations!

This is how you make certain things ‘stick’ inside of your head permanently.  Some of my favorite positive affirmations are, “I’m worth it!”, “I’m fucking incredible!”, and “I’m a cool ass motherf*cker!”. Doing this will help your self-esteem grow tremendously over time. I talk more about positive affirmations in this video over here!


You decide to do this every day and now your confidence has grown a LOT bigger. And look at that, you’re almost at the top of the hill where your unshakable confidence lies.

You feel like a million bucks!

The Ugly Truth About Confidence

Here’s where a lot of people mess up.

Instead of continuing to work on themselves and feed more positive influences and thoughts in their brains, they decide to stop. They feel they’re good enough already and don’t need to work on themselves anymore. They no longer do the exercises and stop trying to improve as a person. They stop doing all of the things that helped them get to that point in the first place.

This is where things go bad…

They start sliding down the hill. They’re no longer near the top and instead have begun to slide down it. As a result, their confidence and self-esteem gets worse and worse. And before they know it, they’re back at the spot they were at in the very beginning.

Here’s why I’m telling you this weird metaphor about a muddy hill.

Confidence isn’t something you turn on or off. It’s not something you either have or don’t. There are levels to it! It has ebbs and flows. It isn’t constant.

Confidence is something you have to work on every single day. It’s not something you can work on once… flip a switch… and think you’ll never have to work on it again.

It’s a muddy hill!

The more you work on yourself, the higher up the hill you’ll go. But, if you get comfortable and slip up, down the hill you will slide.

Here’s what you have to remember on this journey of personal development…

Ignore the haters. Ignore negative thinking. Know if you work hard on yourself you’ll eventually be where you want to be. You’re going to get that confidence you’ve always been dying to get. Never stop climbing up the muddy hill in your own life.

Good luck!

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