If you’ve ever been in a date, meeting, or a job interview, you might have had a moment where you went totally blank.
You ran out things to say and were frantically thinking about what to say next.
I’ve been there and it sucks. Over the years, I’ve figured out how to fix this problem once and for all.
There are 3 SIMPLE tips you can use right now to NEVER run out of things to say in a conversation. These tips are going to help you become more engaged, free-flowing, and confident.
Let’s dive in:
Tip #1 – Be Present in Conversations
This might sound totally basic, but when somebody talks to you it’s important you’re present and listening to what they’re saying.
That means to eliminate ALL distractions! (Yeah, I’m talking about putting your phone away…)
Be fully present in the moment.
A reason why people run out of things to say in conversations is because they’re not actually listening to what the other person is telling them. More often than not, they’re stuck inside of their head trying to figure out with what to say next.
Fundamentally this is wrong because the way conversations work is one person says something, the other person says something else, and then depending on what each other said, you say something related to that.
If you’re not focused on what the other person is saying, how are you going to know what to tell them next?
Listen to what they’re saying and actually focus on what they’re telling you.
Tip #2 – Use the Million Dollar Mouthpiece
If you’re ever read about former pimps, there’s something you’ll notice they all have in common – they are irrationally confident.
They feel that every word that comes out of their mouth is valuable, for the sole reason that it came from them.
This is called the “million dollar mouthpiece”, and it’s something you should use in your conversations. The way pimps carry themselves is they think everything they say is of upmost importance. That every word that comes out of their mouth is literally worth a million dollars.
This is the type of mindset you need to develop (minus the pimping of course) in your interactions with people. You have to believe everything you say is important, no matter what.
You’re running out of things to say because you have an imaginary “quality check” inside of your head. You’re filtering yourself and are overthinking each little thing you say because you don’t think it’s good enough.
This is a terrible mindset to have.
What I want you to do is lower the bar of what you have to say. Say whatever the fuck you want! And DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT JUDGE YOURSELF!
You’ll notice when you say things in a passionate, engaging way, people feed off of that. You could be talking about the most boring thing in the world and people will still be fully locked into what you’re saying. All you have to do is use the concept of the million dollar mouthpiece.
Tip #3 – Use Conversation Threading
This is my secret weapon.
If you understand how to use conversation threading you will literally never run out of things to say in ANY conversation. It doesn’t matter who you’re talking to or what you’re talking about. You’re going to have a bunch of topics to bring up and lots of things to say.
Here’s how you use conversation threading…
I want you to start “looking” for keywords that people say and use them as jump-off points to bring up the next topic or point.
For example, if someone tells you, “I loved Paris, the food and the people were amazing.”, there’s a shit ton of stuff you can extract from that sentence.
You could talk about Paris, you could talk about French food, you could talk about French people, you could talk about places you’ve traveled to in Europe, etc.
All you’re doing is searching for certain things people say and then using it to jump off to the next point or topic based off what they told you.
Running out of things to say boils down to two main things…
The first thing is, you care way too much what people think about you.
A simple mindset you can use is to pretend that everyone you talk to is your best friend. Always assume familiarity and you’re going to notice your conversations go a lot smoother. You’re not going to be overthinking as much.
The second thing is, confidence. Your subconscious mind is fucking you up!
You have a lot of negative thoughts or mindsets that’s holding you back in conversations… and in life in general.
If you want help with this, an easy way to “train” your brain to be more confident is to watch this video I shot. It walks you through a simple way to “change” your subconscious thoughts using a 5-minute exercise.
Thanks for checking out this blog post.
Leave a comment below if these tips helped you out! I’d love to know 🙂